STYLE IT: Day out inspired looks

Hey lovelies,

Previously on style it, date night look 1 and look 2 emphasis was on the night part! Today however let us just talk about how important and easy hair up-do is extremely essential to walking out of the door slaying. I started this style with a frizzy twist out as well that was mostly dry… plus my hair was feeling kinda moody that day… all the products were just sitting on it.

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STYLE IT: Date night hair + Jumpsuit

Have you seen my previous posts in the style it section? Here it is..

In my last post, what I hadn’t told you is how hard it was to finally settle for this dress. Initially the votes had been in favour of this jumpsuit but I had a bit of a wardrobe hitch that made me not go for it. Also, something you may have realized (or not) is that dresses are my element so the jumpsuit was a bit of a stretch for me. If you are going for a work related new year party however, a jumpsuit may be your perfect mix of work and play!! What’s more, it’s almost a dress, then it’s not a dress.

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STYLE IT: Date night hair +OOTD

Ever since this instagram post, I have had requests for my bad ass tailors number which I will share through inbox now that I am not sure I have a link to her Facebook account. In this post, is another of her creations as well… different materials in different style.

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UGRWM: Wash day feat Mikalla

Hello loves,

Happy post Christmas!! I hope we didn’t eat ourselves to stupor!! The interesting thing about this festive season apart from having a super long holiday is how, Christmas and New year are usually a week apart. Its almost like a crash party progamme where you have to look glammed up for two weekends in a row!! If this is worrying you… don’t worry, I got you this week. We start with the post Christmas wash day today.

I started with hair that I had stretched for purposes of graduation. Sectioning it into four, I lightly de-tangled it before pre-pooing it with coconut oil. I usually do this overnight!

I then used the mikalla duo, the low sulfate shampoo and rinse out conditioner. I have to say the shampoo is bae! I’m not sure I know any other shampoo that has slip! My hair felt moisturized after shampooing but all the gulk was gone!!! I applied conditioner after my wash and let it sit as I was showering. This usually acts as my DIY deep conditioner and I let it sit for about fifteen minutes.

My hair was feeling absolutely moisturized and awesome. I would definitely recommend these products for anyone who is looking for cheapies that work absolutely well. I shared other product recommendations in this post here.

Next wash day I plan to deep condition much longer!! Also watch out this week as I share date night hair and outfit ideas… you don’t want to miss that.

How has your wash day been?

Love and love


Vulnerability… #2016

Hey people,

So this past weeks have been full of ups and downs and a lot of running up and down as well. I know I always sound like my life is full of hive and activities (which is true) and sometimes those activities threaten to give you a burn out!and boy don’t we hate burn outs, they have a way of draining you to the last of the energy you have in store. Part of your journey though, especially in your twenties involves burnouts especially embracing and more so managing them. I say managing because for most of our lives we have seminars and trainings on how to manage this and that and eventually how to be our own boss.

As life would have it though, not all important lessons are learnt in class…. Others can only be experienced #schooloflife. I am typing this down at almost midnight after my bestie slept on me quite literally as we were talking on the phone. So here am I pondering on the best fit to throw tomorrow morning and the greatest heart break and betrayal story to come up with, and by the way I am quite good at it. That aside though, my interesting mood and thoughts just led me on to really thinking about vulnerability in my twenty year old mind. Just the way I understand it.

You see B is or rather happens to be my best friend (of course I must throw shade how could you dose off lol) for almost nine years now, and its not like I haven’t had friends before or they were less important, it’s just that in the past nine years I have and still are learning that it is okay not to wing it just yet! I learnt that it is okay not to have always been number one. Or better still, that my value as a person isn’t based on what I have achieved, or owned or some class set by the society… but on the fact that I am a human being. It’s exciting to know that nothing changes that and nothing I do can earn me that value except just be a human being.

This didn’t happen overnight though, initially the struggle was real. You know the way you meet someone (in high school) and you are kinda intrigued by a quality or two in them (I was intrigued by his silence) and then you hang out a couple of times then you realize that this guy is special. Like there is something special about them, and then you realize that you have a couple of similar interests and perspectives and he is literally goals and so you start doing goal-ish (like gifting and texting them) things for them to see that you regard them as goals? Try that with a quiet close to expressionless mostly serious fellow. Yes I just describe a “resting bitch face”. Now join me in saying “wow Nyake smart move baba smart move” very sarcastically. Long story short trying to be “nice” flopped. So we were just friends.

Breakthrough came though, when the goals side of me came off and I was a mess completely… i.e. tissue, sobs and that ugly stuff. That was when the bond just solidified. When I could eat unsliced bread and not feel uncouth. When I could just cry… and not have to wait for girlfriends meeting to cry my weeklong sorrows. When I could ask him to see If I soiled my dress… or I could shout cramps from the other end of the room and he douesnt give me that “abomination” look or the “wrong topic” stare. It was when he could cry… and not feel weird about it… or when he could speak his mind.

Sometimes, we hamper relations and being truly ourselves because we are too busy winging it and looking Gangsta as it were. We end up crumbling under our own walls that we have built. Just thought I should remind you in a rather lengthy way, to be kind to yourself…. Be vulnerable. Allow yourself to be… because in vulnerability lies our ability to experience love.

Also… I still need ideas of a fit to throw tomorrow. . Especially because I have just told you a story, so comment below. I would love to hear from you.

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Love and light


GIFTING/PACKING IDEAS: shower goodies for her!!

When I was writing this Gifting ideas post, I couldn’t help but notice how this sounds like a #hisandhers or # twinning post! Lol. I guess its my lifestyle!!! So today along with sharing the suggestions I have for her… or more like what I use… I would love to make it interactive. Share with me in the comments, how a good shower or bath makes you feel….

Our shower bag has:

Body scrub/ face scrub

I love this one by Cyclux… the scent is gorgeous and the particles are just the right size. I like that its gentle enough to be a face scrub. The feeling on your skin after a good scrub cannot be matched!! (of course this comes second to this Tony Airo coffee scrub that is my absolute favourite)

Shower gel

In the spirit of twinning with this post… and by extension B I got this strawberry shower crème by PalmOlive as well. It smells absolutely gorgeous…I definitely recommend! (of course second to this shower crème by I love.)

Showering scrunchee / gloves

I already talked about these on this post right here. The feelings are mutual. I am now an official shower addict!!

Aloe vera gel

An excellent face moisturiser!!

Shea butter crème.

This is the ultimate skin moisturiser especially on cold days though also a lotion would come in handy for days when your skin is super dry.

What is in your shower bag?

Love and love…


GIFTING IDEAS: Shower goodies for him

Before we delve into this post… you need to read this post here where I talk about my love for self-pampering… or basically giving your body a break. Armed with this basic understanding, lets then delve into this post which is basically a product or pseudo favourite post. I have been assembling/ putting together shower goodies for bae just because a little luxury hurt nobody (read as improving the shower experience.) I honestly think it’s part of being aware of the little things that happen in your life. So yes you should go ahead and enjoy your shower!! No matter your gender. Did I say that showers are therapeutic?

So our shower ensemble consists of:

Shower gel

If you are like me… you do not like the smell of products that are made for men. B doesn’t also so we usually end up buying products that smell edible like this absolute chocolate smelling shower crème by Palmolive. The chocolate scent oozing from the crème will just get you stuck in the bathroom for hours on end.

Shower gloves

When I first got B these gloves he was less than interested until, the minute he had his first shower with them. It completely revolutionized all shower experiences. I got these from Chandarana Supermarket. Best believe you will be hooked.

Moisturising lotion (read as Vaseline!!!)

Anything goes here. I suggest having Nivea because its consistency is bae! For those days when your skin feels super dry. Otherwise Vaseline has been the ish since 1963. Need I say more?


Any is fine!! Yes really any is fine. If you are packing for a journey… then opt for the lighter disposable ones. Also shaving cream though B doesn’t think that is necessary.

Toothbrush (and tooth paste )

This is obvious. Been lusting after this vibrating tooth brush!!!S

If you are about to travel/ sleep over… just put them in a shower bag and voila!!!

You should definitely try!!!