If there is a question that I hear alot in almost all relationship games / real life situations… It has to be “who wears the pants?”….
I find it weird and awkward perhaps partly because of how my relationship is structured and also because I don’t understand why it has to be an issue in the first place. It baffles me why as human beings we really want to have control over other human beings… Because its hella stressful for that level of responsibility to be required of you.
Then again, different folks… different strokes. Personally if there is one thing that my relationship has taught me is to put my partner first. Our relationship is based on a foundation of friendship which makes this such a breeze because he has my interest and as you would imagine… I got his back too.
We don’t flex or use our defacto powers (mainly because there are none really) to make decisions… But instead we do that thing where we consider each other as partners and accord each other respect and love (because no one wants to be disrespected or hated no?)
Its called considering the other person’s needs as much as your own if not more…because everyone is an autonomous human being, and has content to bring to the decision table. At least I can submit that it works…
What are your thoughts about this?