I have been natural all my life really but I just began minding my hair about one year five months ago. Its been quite an experience and an interesting.Read More
Saying that I have missed being here is an understatement. Really wanted to be around, but I have been so busy here there and everywhere. Let’s just say, life happened but I am back and hopefully to share all that my journey has taught me. How have you been?Read More
I am just over a year a year natural…more like just over a year of being heat free and salon free. I finally resolved to quit having people handle my hair (mostly because I didn’t have a single person who could handle unblowdried hair.)Read More
In a world where there are opinions constantly being thrown at us, it gets increasingly difficult to enjoy who we really are. There is always room to be a little of something that we are not. How many times has someone around you told you how you can be a little thinner, a little fatter, a little taller, or even lighter? How many times have we dived into the internet to search for solutions and ideas to get our stomachs to the right size, or to achieve a standard of pretty that society has thrown on us?Read More
So its birthday month! Yey! Really excited (a bit less excited actually) it’s more like thankful to be marking yet another year. I have been thinking that I should start getting my health game strong and other related good goals ( am I the only one who has all this panicky thoughts as I grow older?). Today though, I thought to share with you a few of my lessons in chapter twenty three of life and hopefully I can encourage someone in a similar phase of life. So as usual, grab a drink… like healthy herbal tea, and sit on your favourite chair and let us unpack herstagmakini’s twenty third chapter.
In a nutshell chapter twenty three has been one of those chapters that evoke mixed feelings. A lot of learning, a whole lot…and we all know that some lessons are hard while some are easy. Others take time and hurt for you to fully grasp but in the end you finally get it and emerge a stronger person. A lot of fun as well, with friends, with B and family; getting to appreciate and learn different personalities. I compiled a list of 23 things I learnt in my twenty third year:
1.Life is unfair… in a fair-ish way…
Not everything goes the way I wish and sometimes I don’t even power to change it. That’s okay, be happy with what I have.
2. Celebrate those who love me…..not everyone does.
Learn to see your cheer squad and embrace them.
3.Heap hot coals on their heads.
So many mean people in the world? It’s okay… Don’t be mean as well but rather be nice to them. If they are aggressive …avoid them.
4.ME time is important.
Get some time to absorb things, my emotions… to stock take and work on me… just me
5.SILENCE is golden…
In times of anger and extreme displeasure or congregations of those that rather make conversations about others… instead of projecting words in their raw and unpleasant form, walking away and silence do the trick.
6.ARGUMENTS are silly…
It’s more of a display of ego rather than an attempt to solve a problem.
7.Empty my emotional bottle often….
It may tip one day and a breakdown will happen.
8.Try not to care… just try
Or rather be careful who I listen to. Some people are there to shoot me down…
9.PRAY… talk to HIM
It HELPS a lot. HE always listens, always…. HE listens to everything.
10.Talking to someone doesn’t always help…
Be careful who I talk to… I may be setting myself up for disappointment… like secret spilling?
11.Be easy on myself…
I am also allowed to make mistakes… and learn from them.
12.Love and love 100%….
Like there is no tomorrow….that is the only way I will fully experience love, by giving it.
13.It’s okay to cry not everyone understands you
Tears cleanse the soul, so cry it all out, and express myself.
14.Avoiding toxic people is beneficial for your health
Toxic people can be anyone, who puts you down… it may be in their nature and that is okay. I don’t have to entertain them.
15.Don’t be scared to make decisions…
Some may be hard, real hard… but it’s okay, I’m the only one who can shape my life.
16.Face the consequences as well…
Be ready not to be as liked, to be talked about… just be ready for everything that comes with my decision.
17.Beauty is much more than external…
Nothing beats a gentle honest spirit… a nice person. So strive to be true to myself and very honest with everyone around.
18.Do something for others
It is very fulfilling to see B or mum smile and know that I’, the reason behind it…
19.Choose your battles…
Not every friendship, association, goal or dream is worth fighting for… some may just waste my energy.
20.Self-discovery is a process…
And with every process there is pain, tears, happiness, excitement and disappointment… just enjoy the process.
21Exposing yourself is your duty…
Grab those opportunities that are thrown at me… nobody can do that for me.
22.Think highly of yourself…
An independent mind is the best thing I can do to myself
23.Have fun… its never that serious.
Yes… enjoy living every single day, or at least try.
love and love,