I messed up and I’m stuck

I knew about our little trip a month before it was supposed to take place. But somewhere along the grand time-line, circumstances changed and so it was going to happen sooner. Or so I thought, but then again a minor detail in the plan wasn’t confirmed then the plans were in limbo for a while.

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26 things at 26…

Today is my birthday…. Yes you heard right. I am just walking briefly out of an existential crisis to share a few random thoughts that crossed my mind at 26.

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Gratitude Diary- February 2019

This is the second post in the gratitude series that began in January, and it is a kind of follow-up and check in on my wholesome well being. I do it mostly for me, but also to encourage you to keep some kind of tabs on yourselves too.

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5 Truths from 2018

There’s a little over four days left in 2018 which makes it ideal to share some truths that I have learnt through out this year. Some may sound so cliche but trust me, its the cliché things that we ignore that tend to change our lives. So here are my top five truths…

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On self love

Hey beautiful people…

Happy end of the week. Hope you are holding up well. I am so so excited because September started quite well actually…last Sunday was the best friend’s birthday and we got down to some cooking which I shall share with you soon. Apart from that let us talk about self-love today. When someone says self-love it usually sounds like a bad excuse to indulge in vanity (or so I think in my head) but my mind has gotten round to wrapping itself around that concept.

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Coming up with a regimen

Hey lovelies,

I shared with you my hair regimen a while back and I’m thinking the next question is how do you then personalize your hair journey and regimen? When I started out on this journey the biggest favour I did for myself was to keep my eyes open and of course my brain. I read all that I could read and sifted through loads of information. I still read a lot much more than I did then. I found some five “mantras” that really helped me get a foothold of this journey and I shall share with you

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Just her

In a world where there are opinions constantly being thrown at us, it gets increasingly difficult to enjoy who we really are. There is always room to be a little of something that we are not. How many times has someone around you told you how you can be a little thinner, a little fatter, a little taller, or even lighter? How many times have we dived into the internet to search for solutions and ideas to get our stomachs to the right size, or to achieve a standard of pretty that society has thrown on us?

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23 things at 23

Heyy everyone…

So its birthday month! Yey! Really excited (a bit less excited actually) it’s more like thankful to be marking yet another year. I have been thinking that I should start getting my health game strong and other related good goals ( am I the only one who has all this panicky thoughts as I grow older?). Today though, I thought to share with you a few of my lessons in chapter twenty three of life and hopefully I can encourage someone in a similar phase of life. So as usual, grab a drink… like healthy herbal tea, and sit on your favourite chair and let us unpack herstagmakini’s twenty third chapter.

In a nutshell chapter twenty three has been one of those chapters that evoke mixed feelings. A lot of learning, a whole lot…and we all know that some lessons are hard while some are easy. Others take time and hurt for you to fully grasp but in the end you finally get it and emerge a stronger person. A lot of fun as well, with friends, with B and family; getting to appreciate and learn different personalities. I compiled a list of 23 things I learnt in my twenty third year:

1.Life is unfair… in a fair-ish way…

Not everything goes the way I wish and sometimes I don’t even power to change it. That’s okay, be happy with what I have.

2. Celebrate those who love me…..not everyone does.

Learn to see your cheer squad and embrace them.

3.Heap hot coals on their heads.

So many mean people in the world? It’s okay… Don’t be mean as well but rather be nice to them. If they are aggressive …avoid them.

4.ME time is important.

Get some time to absorb things, my emotions… to stock take and work on me… just me

5.SILENCE is golden…

In times of anger and extreme displeasure or congregations of those that rather make conversations about others… instead of projecting words in their raw and unpleasant form, walking away and silence do the trick.

6.ARGUMENTS are silly…

It’s more of a display of ego rather than an attempt to solve a problem.

7.Empty my emotional bottle often….

It may tip one day and a breakdown will happen.

8.Try not to care… just try

Or rather be careful who I listen to. Some people are there to shoot me down…

9.PRAY… talk to HIM

It HELPS a lot. HE always listens, always…. HE listens to everything.

10.Talking to someone doesn’t always help…

Be careful who I talk to… I may be setting myself up for disappointment… like secret spilling?

11.Be easy on myself…

I am also allowed to make mistakes… and learn from them.

12.Love and love 100%….

Like there is no tomorrow….that is the only way I will fully experience love, by giving it.

13.It’s okay to cry not everyone understands you

Tears cleanse the soul, so cry it all out, and express myself.

14.Avoiding toxic people is beneficial for your health

Toxic people can be anyone, who puts you down… it may be in their nature and that is okay. I don’t have to entertain them.

15.Don’t be scared to make decisions…

Some may be hard, real hard… but it’s okay, I’m the only one who can shape my life.

16.Face the consequences as well…

Be ready not to be as liked, to be talked about… just be ready for everything that comes with my decision.

17.Beauty is much more than external…

Nothing beats a gentle honest spirit… a nice person. So strive to be true to myself and very honest with everyone around.

18.Do something for others

It is very fulfilling to see B or mum smile and know that I’, the reason behind it…

19.Choose your battles…

Not every friendship, association, goal or dream is worth fighting for… some may just waste my energy.

20.Self-discovery is a process…

And with every process there is pain, tears, happiness, excitement and disappointment… just enjoy the process.

21Exposing yourself is your duty…

Grab those opportunities that are thrown at me… nobody can do that for me.

22.Think highly of yourself…

An independent mind is the best thing I can do to myself

23.Have fun… its never that serious.

Yes… enjoy living every single day, or at least try.

love and love,

Nyake