July ’19 gratitude Diary

This post should have been written and edited last week… But I chose to send out a newsletter instead… And if you missed that, you need to subscribe to my blog via mail… Because every month we get to interact on a more personal level. Think about it like you and I get to be bffs… Cool right?

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25 facts about me

Hey loves….

So I met this random stranger a while back. I, sure we meet strangers all the time, but this was a stalker-ish guy, those guys who have ulterior interests. He looked about 40 years and my first thought was “ he is looking for a second wife!!” lol. Of course from first impressions there are a few reservations I had about him… and also the fact that my eyes are elsewhere at the moment (here). (speaking of which I should do a relationship post soon). What particularly ticked me off though was how a) someone meets you for the first two minutes and they are already talking of a relationship!! Whaat!! You don’t know me!! And b) someone who you don’t know, who has just declared their relationship interest wanting to hug you in the first five minutes of meeting!! Yuck!!

Anyway this encounter made me remember that we haven’t gotten to know each other on here yet.. so reach out for your cup of tea…and let’s get to know each other in the random facts about me tag.

  • My full name is Nyakebondo. I always refuse to tell people what it means but, I was named after my great grandmother. I love my African name more than my English name just because it is quite unique. Just google and see!

  • I was born during the day, at 0902hours in Aga Khan Hospital… I’m not sure how this adds any value, but at least I know I wasn’t bought lol. Also my bestie and I were born in the same hospital months apart!!

  • I am an introvert and extrovert at the same time. It’s kinda weird!! But yes!

  • I’m vegetarian and for some reason I have a love-hate relationship with eggs!! I consider myself almost vegan

  • I have a very selective memory…. But a good one at that! I usually filter subconsciously what I hear and consequently I remember particular phrases and stuff.

  • I have an over imaginative mind which scares me a lot. Analysing is my thing… but I guess that makes me prone to over thinking.

  • I think I have the perfect balance between euphemism and bluntness. While I am not confrontational with emotional issues, I can pretty much talk about anything in its raw form.

  • I’m beginning to enjoy being curvy, I didn’t for the longest time… perhaps because everyone around me is small and most of them have a fat phobia.

  • Do I have a resting bitch face? Maybe… apparently I look quite un-approachable. Though I think this has to do with my self-monologue habits.

  • I made peace with the fact that I am weird in my own way. Tried to fit in a box and failed miserably.

  • Also, I hate the word ‘proper’ or ‘normal’. I think it’s a bad excuse to be boring!!! Do things because you have a valid reason

  • I happen to be very tactile… I respond excellently to touch and experience things by interaction through touch, that makes me a hug girl and hold my hand person!!

  • Cooking especially for me is very stress relieving. I enjoy making myself feel special.

  • I am an official stationery and hair and body care product junkie (now you know what to gift me). My heart just beats to the sight of cute accessories and organic products.

  • Did I say that I love to pamper myself? (This here explains it). Showers and body scrubs and manicure… that life.

  • Shopping may as well be my past time activity… I love to know where to find what ranging from house fittings to personal accessories.

  • I love to be independent and the struggle and responsibility that comes with it. I live for that day I finally will.

  • I hope to make a living out of creativity, especially in solving people’s problems. That makes me absolutely happy.

  • Art and music make me absolutely happy as well.. I guess that has to do with creativity!

  • I am a pear shape…and that gets me into a lot of trouble as far as being followed is concerned.

  • My shoe size is 8/42 which makes it quite difficult to get ladies shoes!!

  • I have been Natural basically all my life…just that I began taking my hair seriously two years ago.

  • I basically am chilled and easy going… the folding legs on the chair type of easy…or the sit on the carpet and fold your legs easy.

  • I am currently obsessing over everything white. I just bought a white towel!! Yes!! White makes me absolutely happy.

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Love and love

Nyake.

25 facts about me

Hey loves….

So I met this random stranger a while back. I, sure we meet strangers all the time, but this was a stalker-ish guy, those guys who have ulterior interests. He looked about 40 years and my first thought was “ he is looking for a second wife!!” lol. Of course from first impressions there are a few reservations I had about him… and also the fact that my eyes are elsewhere at the moment (here). (speaking of which I should do a relationship post soon). What particularly ticked me off though was how a) someone meets you for the first two minutes and they are already talking of a relationship!! Whaat!! You don’t know me!! And b) someone who you don’t know, who has just declared their relationship interest wanting to hug you in the first five minutes of meeting!! Yuck!!

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Vision Board for 2017

Hello loves,

Happy new year!! Took a two week break from the blog to get my rest to begin 2017 on the right footing.

I am stocked for 2017 I hope you are too. 2017 for me is going to be a mountainous year as I learn how to be independent and get “all my monkeys swinging” (read as: getting my sh*t together). So to help with that, alongside getting to see the full scope of what I have to do, I thought it prudent to make a vision board. A vision board is basically like a mood board to a designer. The basic principle it is based on is writing down where you want to be and putting it in a location where you get to see it every day and remind yourself where you want to be.

I got this idea from Muthoni Njoba, who is a really cool makeup artist, from this video. So I sold the idea to B who was very supportive of it and so we purposed to come up with one (#twinning) together. In this post, we will basically share the process in pictures and ideas on how to come up with one.

HOW TO DO IT:

  • If you don’t have a literal pin up board, you can create this super fun ones using mounting board. The thickness doesn’t matter at this point… just use a cutter to trim it to your desired size.

  • Take your preferred colour of paper and mount it on the board, using glue or double stick tape. You can opt to cover the whole board or leave an equal margin round. Also you may just want to use the board as it is. I personally prefer exciting spaces…

  • Accessorize the board and write your goals and dreams away.

A list of things you may find useful…

  • Mounting board –Ngariama road stationery shops or Text Book Centre or Sciencescope Kimathi street

  • Silver and gold gel pens- Text Book Centre

  • Embossed paper – Ngariama road stationery shops or Text Book Centre or Sciencescope Kimathi street

  • Sticky notes – any supermarket or stationery shop. Office mart on Kenyatta Avenue has pretty ones

  • Stickers – House of Leather,Nairobi. (the one at Adams)

  • Acrylic paint – Text Book Centre or Sciencescope Kimathi street

A few things to remember:

  • Be candid and really state what you want

  • Come up with a method to work at it

  • Then believe that you can do it.

  • Pray about it….

Love and love

Nyake

Of Silhouettes and selflove

I have a love hate relationship with the mirror. As a matter of fact, before my Natural Hair Journey, I never really used a mirror in my life. Mirrors to me were (kinda are) those annoying things that just had to remind you that you had a million and one spots on your face and would quickly reduce your self confidence level to -66%. So I generally avoided them. I never even looked at my reflection in the many glass-coated buildings in town, and whenever I did, the sight of my “fat” legs would quickly remind me why I never liked mirrors.

You see I am a pear shape… usually this shouldn’t be a problem except when your hips and waist decide to be inches apart in circumference… and when all authority in heaven and earth (as far as hips are concerned) were dumped on you in a rather unfair manner. I say unfair because everyone in my house is small and then there is me.

So while I should have been celebrating the curves that the LORD had made, I was busy lusting after small bodies. I was surely not eating all the food in the house and finishing for my sisters (why do people say this again? It is not kind at all! REALLY HURTS BTW!!). So I grew to dislike myself a lot and mostly thrived on a make believe world … something I still fight to date.

So last week I went to a place that is almost Limuru to baby sit my little nieces (and boy don’t they have interesting stories though). By the way I am an official baby sitter in case you need someone to stay with your kids, I have not been home for almost a month #outonbabysittingduties. (just email me!) So back to Limuru, it is so far from the road, you literally need to think twice before you embark on a journey to town.

Technically my life slowed down, thus I had time to think about a lot of things. Also I have my own ensuite bedroom which means my life is complete without necessarily stepping out of the room. Also, I could prance around naked or minimally clothed without a problem. Since the kids were out in school for most of the day, bedroom was my chill spot. There was a catch though… the MIRROR! It is right at the door between the door of the bathroom and the main bedroom door. So guess what! You have to see your unattractive self as it were every time you use the passages.

So for the past one or so week, I have been staring at this girl in the mirror. I have inspected her, criticised her, hated her, wished I could change just about everything… and finally learning to embrace her and love her. I have learnt to take care of her, to see those fat legs and be like…” they are mine”… to see that tummy and be like “we love you and we want to trim you”…. To see those thighs and be like “you are bae”… Just to love that body. So to endorse the self love body positive vibes, I decided to take some silhouette pics… just blurring out details and enjoying her form.

Maybe you should try mirror, or not… perhaps silhouettes… whatever you do, I hope you look at you and are like… “I’m dashing!!” If not, work your way there… whatever it takes!!!

Love and love

Nyake.

Gentle Reminder

Heyy you!! Yes you reading this… you have gotten to the end of October. Congratulations!! I hope it was not too hard on you…

I’m seated here on my bed typing, and I can’t shut this nudging feeling to put down this gentle reminders not only for you but for me too. You see, I’m currently not having a very relaxed mind, and that is partly because I feel like everybody in the world needs me… and not in a good way. More like in a way that stretches you and really drains you as it were. Technically it shouldn’t bother me, but it’s almost like I should switch off my phone and almost take a communication cleanse (which I will eventually, right now they may be some pressing matters preventing me from doing so)

You are enough… yes you are enough… you actually need to believe this. Sometimes in a quest to make a couple of people happy, you forget that you are actually more than enough. You are smart, you are beautiful and you are unique which is your greatest asset.

You will always be too much of something to someone, and it is not necessarily a bad thing, make peace with that. Everyone definitely has an opinion, and is entitled to one just as much as you are entitled to the choice of whether to take it or not.

You need time for yourself as well… to unwind, to release and to recharge. Nobody feeds fro am empty source, and in order for you to be as awesome and as effective as you ought, you need to take time off. That spa, that gym, that forest or that silent retreat, just for you. Don’t allow yourself to be drained by family or friends or your relationships… take time off.

Learn to say NO (note to self). Know when you can’t do it, it is okay to be tired or to have too much to do. It is okay not to want to see people and to recoil and cocoon and think about life.

SMILE often… even if it is the smile after slaying your hair and you are pouting and goofing on the mirror. Try and build joy from within and resist the urge to lapse into negativity. Keep up positive vibes and cut off negative influence.

DREAM big… it is okay to do so… PUSH yourself to achieve the dreams you have set… overcome the urge to be complacent and stay CONSISTENT and PERSISTENT!!

PRAY!!! (says prayer) talk to HIM, it is so therapeutic and it helps a lot!! HE is the real MvP trust me!!

Most of all, try each and everyday to love and appreciate who you are, and what you do to make the world a better place for someone.

Love and love

Nyake.

Confidence…the struggle

Hey people

I have a confession to make. So if you have met me before, you probably know that I am one of the people who pretty much have their lives together. I have really supportive parents and a great best friend who couples up as bae (read as the “one”) and the best sisters you could ask for. Generally my squad is dope! And as you would expect my life is set.

End of illusion and now welcome to the real world. I know it sounds cliché but the truth is my life is quite the contrary, and no it’s not because of family or bae. I happen to be one of the most freak-out-iy (I proudly created this word and claim all rights to it) person ever! Yes, I worry a lot and are very quick to discredit myself.

You see when I say that I am not the most confident person lots of my friends and acquaintances will dispute that, I mean I’m all about asking questions and dishing opinions here and there. In fact I’m usually the class perfect back-up vote of thanks person. But for some reason I have bouts of low confidence moments that hit hard. And they hit more frequently than I like to admit.

I had such a week ago and of course you know that the week was mostly a slump. I didn’t even feel like waking up or doing anything. It was just like dig a hole and bury yourself in there kind of mentality. the good news is that the cloud usually finally lifts even if it’s only for a bit. When it does, feel free to enjoy the sunshine that peeks through (and I’d say enjoy it to the maximum.)

I thought I’d share with you a couple of ways I try to deal with these days

  1. Get a cheerleader

This is your real squad, those who challenge you and point out your awesomenesss. It could be one person or many depending on you. Your family may be a good place to start or your significant other. Share with them what you are going through and be honest about it even though it is a small thing. Usually a cup of tea or juice or your favourite ice-cream later, you will be so full of positive vibes you will be amazed.

It would be important to state here that you should really avoid anyone who belittles your emotion because you will end up feeling twice as bad.

2. Do something you love

Yes, your hobby like swimming, colouring or hiking etc. just do something that redirects your energy. This helps to distract you and chances are you may be fairly good at it so why not.

3.Try and avoid the trigger

If it is a person or circumstance that you can avoid please do. Hanging around them will only make it worse!! If you can’t avoid then try to limit exposure .

Also talking to HIM helps a lot it’s probably the best solution, but there are times that I have been in such a hole that I didn’t think HE would listen to me anyway. Here is where a bestie comes in because, they pray for you (which is a plus) and pray with you which is super awesome!!!

How else do you deal with low moments? I would love to know.

Love

Nyake.

Me time routine

Heyyy

So as I mentioned in an earlier post, I love to pamper myself. I do it more frequently now because my body has been and still is under so much pressure to perform such strenuous tasks (i.e project things). One would think that pampering has to be so expensive but contrary to most opinions, it doesn’t have to. This post is just about to show you how I achieve my pampering sessions at home by myself and in an inexpensive way.

Before that though, its important to note that pampering is a good way to relax your body and help it to get rid of the bad stuff.

BODY SCRUBS are a great way to exfoliate the skin which gets rid of the dead cells. It also helps in circulation of blood which means your skin is more nourished. Since the skin is the most peripheral organ of the body, often it doesn’t get enough blood due to various factors of lifestyle and so it’s actually cool to conjure proper circulation. Did I mention how well your skin absorbs moisture after a good scrub?

MASSAGES are also a great way to help boost circulation and great for relaxation as well. The best part about this is if someone (i.e. your significant other) is doing it for you, it’s a great way to bond as well ey? *insert cheeky emoji*. Also, who likes to have a scalp massage? It is actually great for hair growth as well.

SALT BATHS are absolutely relaxing as well. You don’t have to have a bath tub, you could make a salt scrub (for the shower peoples) or add some to your hot bucket showers. Also soaking your feet in salty water is a great way to relax your feet especially after a long walk in heels. (can I get an amen somebody?)

I pamper once to twice a week simply because I can and it has also been kind of chilly which has necessitated the warm baths and body scrubs even more just to keep the body up for the cold weather. This is how I do it,

I either: -PREPOO SCRUB with my DIY coco-carb scrub

-wash my face with African black soap

-scrub my face then use a mask

-take a bucket bath with my shower gel

-rinse out my scrub

-moisturize

Or :

-Do my facial routine

-take a bucket bath with my shower gel

-scrub with a store bought scrub

– rinse out the scrub

-moisturize

Then; -wear your cotton pyjamas

-Get your cup of tea… hot tea

-Grab your favourite book (or if you are like me, a coloring book)

-Get into your sheets and or bean bag.

Have a relaxed day, won’t you?

How else do you pamper yourself / relax?

Love and love

Nyake

Recent Favourite Habits

Hello loves,

Happy Sunday, the day we all get to prepare for a busy week ahead. Hope you have been great as I have. Today I thought I’d share with you a few of the things I have been loving of late and have been giving me life. I compiled both habits and products.

1.Waking up early.

Im such an early bird, I love to wake up as early as four and I find it quite interesting to work in the silence of the early morning. Though I have been a little over board with this early thing and my body is tired right now, I still find it really awesome to wake up early in the morning.

2.Pampering myself

Having mentioned how my body has been overworking, this has become my favourite activity. It helps your body to relax especially when you don’t have enough time to let your body relax naturally and rejuvenate itself. A bonus is that the products smell so good.

3.Coloring

My friend Winny got me this absolute bae, yea an adult coloring book as a way to channel my inner creativity. I wanted it so bad! Thanks Winny. Did I also say it is a great way to relax your brain? You can get one for yourself here.

4.Walks.

Walking is a great relaxing way to exercise. I have been taking these with B seeing that we are forest peoples and love outdoors so much. Great places to have walks include Karura forest, it has really long trails that are exciting.

5.Me- time/ time alone

Time alone is great for re-evaluating and reflecting on your life, (and no this is not meant to sound deep). Taking time alone does give you the necessary recharge you need to go on with life. Best time alones are spent in meditation and also prayer. I sometimes color, listen to music or tag B along and have serious conversations.

5.Cooking

You usually feel so much better when you eat well, and eat good food yes? This is also true in my case, except that I feel way better knowing that I can prepare good food as well. I have tried and failed, sometimes succeded to make absolutely awesome dishes that I will share on the blog a little later.

What have you loved of late? I would love to know…share with me in the comments section below.

Xxx

Nyake.